My poorly baby

We nearly made it a year without Charlie having any sort of sickness. That was until we were on our mini break!

Charlie had been fine throughout the day, we took him to a local play centre which he absolutely loved. We made sure we wiped down his hands often as you do, and everything was great.

We headed back to our log cabin, Charlie played for a while whist Matt got his food ready. We decided to try him with an Ellas kitchen sachet of chicken curry, which he absolutely wolfed down! We’d also bought a cooked chicken from Tesco so we added in some bits for him to eat by himself.

After dinner Charlie had a quick bath and into his pjs to settle down. He has hit bottle of milk and a cuddle before we put him to bed. He’s an excellent sleeper so when Matt put him down we never thought our night would take a turn.

Around 9pm I decided to pop my head in to check on him when I smelt the most awful smell I knew straight away something was wrong. When I peered over the top of the travel cot I could see a mass of sick – everywhere! I called to Matt quick as I picked Charlie up half asleep and started to strip him off. It was everywhere, and I mean EVERYWHERE. I’d never seen anything like it. His sleeping bag was covered, it was all in his hair, down his pjs, all across the mattress of his cot, all down the sides.

We’d had the monitor on it’s loudest setting and we hadn’t heard him stir so I don’t know whether this all happened whilst he was asleep which worried me even more! He didn’t cry or even murmur he was just really quiet, I held him and rubbed his back when I could feel him start to wretch. Oh no matt! As I rushed to the bathroom Charlie had been vomiting all over me.

I put him In the bath and pulled him pj bottoms off and nappy. I pulled my T-shirt off and chucked everything at the top of the bath. Matt was sorting out his cot whilst I washed him down and got all of the sick out of his hair. He was so good amongst all of the chaos he just sat quietly and played with his toy.

We dried him off and put him in clean pjs. We sat on the sofa watching I’m a celebrity. He seemed to be much better. Within 20 minutes he started heaving again and before I could even get up with him he’d been sick all down his fresh pjs! It was like someone was pumping it out of him!

We stripped him to his nappy and decided to leave him for a while and it was lucky we did because within minutes he was throwing up again. It was the worst thing I’ve ever seen, but throughout it all he didn’t cry or fuss, he was just quiet.

We’d left it around half an hour without any signs of more sickness, so we decided to put another pair of clean pjs on and put him to bed. I put him down came back into the living room and within 5 minutes heard him gagging on the camera, ran it picked him up and held him over the toilet as he was bringing up what was left in his stomach.

Luckily his pjs were still clean, after another long cuddle on the sofa I put him back down and thank god he went to sleep. Not that I slept all night I was constantly checking in on him to make sure he was ok. We don’t know what caused it but thank god hes so much better today! Nothing worse than seeing your baby poorly! X

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Charlie @ 11 months

Wowza!? How quickly have these last 11 months gone. I know I keep saying it but I can’t get my head around the fact Charlie will be 1 in just a few short weeks.

He has come on leaps and bounds, it seems like he’s growing up so quickly. He is the most beautiful, funny, happy little boy. He is actually a little boy now, but he will always be my baby.

He makes us laugh every single day, he is so curious, fearless he’s into everything. Loves his toys, loves playing games, loves his food, loves his bed! We are extremely lucky. He’s no trouble for us, he’s a fantastic eater he will eat anything I put in front of him.

He sleeps like a dream, from the moment we put him down we don’t hear him until he gets up in the morning. He loves his bath before bed too. The only thing he doesn’t like is having his nappy changed or getting dressed but apart from that nothing!

He does grind his teeth a lot which goes through me! He still has 8 teeth, 4 at bottom & top. I thought I could see the white of his molars the other day but I wasn’t 100%. He’s crawling everywhere and he’s really fast, he stands up and sits down all day long. He does sometimes shuffle around the sofa, and I’ve seen him let go a few times and fall on his bum. He’s definitely getting more confident.

He loves to walk holding your hands but still hasn’t got his balance properly yet. We are going on a mini break at the end of the month to a lodge in Narberth for 3 days so that will be a nice mini holiday. We’re also getting this prepped for Charlie’s birthday party!

Exciting times! I’m not ready for him to turn 1, I don’t think I ever will be!

Hx

Charlie @ 10 months

I can’t believe I forgot to do a 10 month update! *bad mum alert!* Charlie is currently 10 months 3 weeks old! Wow where is the time going?

He’s as lush as ever! I cannot enough of him, he’s so funny me & the family are always giggling over things he comes out with. He’s making lots of weird and wonderful sounds, his new favourite is blowing his lips together which is pretty difficult for me to do! Nanny has been teaching him so he’s picked it up from her!

Charlie has 8 teeth now, 4 at bottom & 4 up top. He’s done really well when it’s come to the last couple of teeth coming through. We only actually knew he had the teeth when he opened his mouth and we noticed, we didn’t hear a grizzle from him. He is super super fast crawling now, and he is EVERYWHERE! I mean everywhere. We definitely need eyes dotted around our heads.

He constantly makes a break for it to get to the stairs! He half attempts to start to climb but gets too scared and comes back down. He is up and down standing constantly, it’s like he can’t sit still unless he’s winding down for bed or he’s captivated by his baby tv! We had a walker for him from matts mum as an early birthday present, so I’ve been helping him practise to walk with it a couple of times a day and he’s getting it slowly.

He eats really really well, anything I put in front of him he demolishes. He’s on two 7 ounce bottles a day, one first thing and a bedtime bottle. He absolutely loves his fruit, I think he would eat it all day if he could. I’m still trying to cook as much as possible rather than relying on the cow & gate jars. I try to now only use them if we are out and about or if he’s really over tired and he needs to get to bed. Other than that I try make him something, if I can I’ll make him whatever we are having for tea before hand.

He’s such a lovely happy baby, he’s really sociable. He just loves people and loves showing off he’s always making everyone laugh. He’s super chatty every single day he just babbles to himself all day. I can’t quite believe he will be 1 in 6 weeks time it’s really flown by. We’ve been lucky in the sense he’s been really healthy apart from a few weeks ago when he had tonsillitis & a chest infection which lasted around a week, then to top it off me & Matt caught the flu!

He’s still an excellent sleeper, we honestly don’t know how lucky we are. He goes down anytime from 6:30pm-7:15pm and sleeps through till around 7am. We don’t hear him all night, I never usually tell other mothers because I feel awful if their little ones are bad sleepers.

Loving every minute of watching him learn and grow – it’s the best!

Packing for holiday with a 9 month old!

I decided to do a blog of what we packed to go abroad for a week. I probably started gradually packing a few weeks before. We took two cases as we had 23kg each, so for Charlie I wracked my brains to make sure I covered everything so here was my list for him.

We took his changing bag for the plane and packed everything else into our suitcases.

Plane Bag*

🔹 2 ready made bottles

🔹 Water bottle

🔹 2x Bottles

🔹 2x Fruit

🔹 2x Food

🔹 Spoon & Bowl

🔹 10x Nappies

🔹 2x packs of wipes

🔹 First Aid Kit

🔹 Teething Gel

🔹 Nappy Cream

🔹 Nappy Bags

🔹 Dummies & clip

🔹 Calpol Sachets

🔹 Changing Mat** this was amazing!

🔹 Feeding Bibs & Normal Bibs

🔹 Ear Defenders

🔹 Toys – Sophie, Bee, Crinkle Book, Bath Book

Suitcase

🔸 Lion King Shorts & Tee

🔸 Hooded shorts & Tee

🔸 T-Shirts x5

🔸 Rompers x4

🔸 Swim Shorts x3

🔸 Swim Suit & Hats x2

🔸 Suncream kids Factor 50

🔸 Nappies x25 (min)

🔸 Wipes x4

🔸 Shorts x4 beige,grey & denim

🔸 Hat for daytime

🔸 Sandals

🔸 Shortsleeved Vests x6

🔸 Swim Nappies x15

🔸 Sleepsuits x2

🔸 Bottles x2

🔸 Beach Tent

🔸 Inflatable For pool

🔸 mini pool

🔸 hooded towel

🔸 Light Sleeping bag

🔸 Bibs

🔸 Formula

🔸 10 Sachets of food

🔸 4 ready made bottles

🔶 Snoozeshade

I need to mention the changing bag – Matt bought a travel changing bag from amazon and it was a god send! It saved me lugging his backpack around and we used it throughout the day. It folds out into a changing Matt, has space for wipes, creams, nappies & wipes it was just perfect for what we needed. I’ve included pics below!

I’ll be honest I packed WAY too much for Charlie he didn’t wear even a quarter of his clothes as most of the time he was in his nappy and we would get him to sleep before we left for dinner in the evening so he would be in just a short sleeved vest bodysuit. Even putting shorts & T-shirt on him in the day it was just way too much as it was too hot. I think if he was older and staying up later then he would have worn a lot more but I am glad I over packed than under packed.

We didn’t use the beach tent or the small inflatable pool but would still take them for when he’s older!

Another thing I just have to mention is our snoozeshade – what an absolute god send this is. I use it every day anyway because it helps get Charlie off to sleep if we are out and about in his Pram. But for holiday it was great too! We used it all day everyday and it is definitely my holiday essential for any baby to have. We actually got ours off eBay for £5! BARG!

I think we took around 35 nappies in total and didn’t use them all, and we had swim nappies left over. Charlie went through 2 swim nappies a day we’d take him in the pool in the morning & afternoon. We also took Charlie’s 0.5 tog sleeping bag as he sleeps in one every night and wanted to try keep things the same, as we had air con in our room he just had a vest on underneath and that was fine he wasn’t too hot or cold.

I think that basically covers everything!

Hx

Charlie @ 9 Months!

Woah slow down baby boy your growing way to fast. I’m struggling to deal with the fact time is flying by so quickly. Where has my newborn gone? My little baby is growing up before my eyes, and as much as I love watching his personality shine through it makes me sad.

He wakes me up every morning chatting away, even with the monitor on mute I can hear him from the next room. As soon as I walk into his room and I see that smile beaming at me I’m not tired anymore. He giggles constantly and it’s so infectious.

He’s still sleeping all the way through the night with not even the slightest sound. We are incredibly lucky. Charlie has 6 teeth 4 at the top and 2 at the bottom, but I’ve just noticed another 2 starting to break through either side of his bottom two teeth. He is constantly on the go it’s like he can’t sit still! He is everywhere and into everything! He’s so fast at crawling I can’t turn my back for a second.

He’s also started pulling himself up 🙈 seriously have to have eyes in the back of my head now! He’s always been really strong on his legs even from a few months old, and he’s always wanted to be stood up. So it’s no suprise that he’s trying to get up more and more now! He is still going through this thing of hating having his nappy changed or getting dressed. It never used to bother him but all of a sudden it’s like he has a meltdown every time!

Other than that he’s super happy! He eats really well, absolutely loves his food. We do half baby led and half spoon fed. He loves his fruit, so he has it every day. The only thing he’s slightly turned his nose up at was a tuna sandwich but everything else we’ve tried him with has been fine. Actually crazy to see how much he’s changing every month, I can’t wait to put all his pictures together from 0-12 months, although I’m not ready for him to turn 1 at in the slightest!!

We’re off on our first family holiday on Wednesday to Alcudia, and we cannot wait! I’ll definitely be blogging our trip just hope it all goes well!

Hx

What Motherhood Has Taught Me

Going from child free to expecting can cause a whirlwind of excitement, apprehension, and wishing Google had an answer to questions like “how to keep my baby alive”. But as a new mum you have to learn as you go – or more commonly known as “just wing it”. I put together some of my personal things which motherhood has taught me.

1. Don’t forget your hobbies, I love reading books!

I don’t mean baby books, I mean proper books the ones you can’t put down. The ones you go to bed early for just to sit for an hour and be totally engrossed. I love reading, and I miss it. My mum is also a keen reader and Is always sharing her favourite books with me and now I hardly get time to sit alone for 5 minutes let alone read a book, and when I do I’m normally too tired. – note “must make more time to read”. So in short, do what you love and make time for it when you have a baby.

2. Your physical & mental health is everything

When I got pregnant with Charlie I was over weight and unhappy, totally unfit. So in a nutshell the worst possible condition to have a baby (in my opinion). You have enough massive changes that will happen to your body over 9 months, without already not being in good health. I wish I’d lost weight and been fitter, not super fit but just fitter & stronger. I know for sure I would have had an easier pregnancy. It’s something I will 100% be taking forward before any future pregnancies. I feel like I missed out because I did suffer so much physically & mentally, Not forgetting post birth, your body takes a battering whatever way you give birth. So take the time to look after yourself and let your body heal.

3. Look after yourself & your relationship

I wish I had known that the first six months after having a baby would be hardest on my relationship, whether people want to admit it or not, it’s rough. If I had known the impact it would have, then I would have made an extra effort. It’s not all doom & gloom, having a baby has made us stronger and brought us closer together. It’s formed a new found love between us, but it also highlighted our weaknesses. Sleep deprivation, the stress of learning how to care for a newborn, and the changes to your body will have an impact on you, I personally found it all difficult to deal with. I wish I had known it was okay to communicate the things I was experiencing, instead of him wondering if it was his fault or if the baby was coming between us! So my advice would be to talk to each other keep that communication line strong if nothing else.

4. Give yourself a break

As a new mum you want to get everything right, and truth is you’ll never get everything right. You’ll make mistakes along the way, but that’s how you learn. Every time I didn’t know why Charlie was crying I’d be questioning myself and doubting my abilities of being a mother. I was really hard on myself specially in the early days id even say for the first few months no one gave me a harder time than myself if I felt like “I wasn’t quite getting it”. Now, I can read him like a book as can matt – we could sit and predict Charlie’s next move or emotion before it happens. That just comes with time & experience. You’ll be OK! Hang in there MUMMA your doing great.

5. You will realise your stronger than you think

You will see your inner strength which you never knew you had until now. At 3am in the morning when your newborn has been crying consistently for the last 4 hours and your about to loose your mind, that something which pulls you through ready to fight another day, that’s the strong stuff. You’ll cope, and most of the time you’ll wonder how! Then you’ll look back and realise that it was that inner strength which never showed itself until you really needed it. It will be a comfort to you, because you’ll know no matter what life throws at you along the way you will get through it.

6. You will feel judged by others, and you will judge too.

Charlie’s having a bloody melt down again, he’s screaming at the top of his lungs like I’ve just hurt him. Your eyes are darting around the room as you try and figure out how the bloody hell your going to calm him down. That voice in your head pops in “Oh everyone’s staring at you, I bet they think your a bad mum, god you can’t even control your child, what’s wrong with you?” You’ll be convinced every single person in that room was staring at you thinking the most awful things. Like wise, if you see parents doing something or saying something you don’t agree with, you’ll raise eyebrows & give the odd side eye. It will happen, you’ll feel vulnerable and out of your depth. But, it’s not the end of the world, you’ll see.

7. You will experience the most powerful form of love.

You or I could never put it into words the love which explodes from inside out once you have a child. You will get it, when you hold your baby for the first time you will understand what I’m talking about. You’ll never be able to describe it to anyone who doesn’t have children, you know they just have to experience it themselves. It is the most beautifully terrifying love I have ever felt. It is completely endless.

8. Mothers instinct – there is such a thing!

Yes it’s true, it exists. Like I said earlier you will learn about your baby, as they grow into an infant. You will understand them a bit more with every day that comes. And sometimes only you can make things better, there have been times where my mum has had Charlie and she hasn’t been able to settle him and she will give him back to me because she knew in that moment no one else could help but me. Just by the sound of their cry you just know what to do, where as in the beginning you go round in circles, feeding, changing, burping, comforting. Likewise when something’s wrong you will just know, I don’t know how to put it more simple than that. You’ll just know.

9. You’ll look at your partner in a way you never did before.

You love each other of course you do that’s one of the reasons you chose to have a family together. But, once you have a baby and you watch you partner & your baby together it’s a whole new type of love, an intensified love. I’ve just sat and watched Matt with Charlie many of times, and I could all day. My heart bursts with pride, love & respect. I am lucky that Matt is the most amazing dad, which I knew he would be. There is a real magical moment watching someone else portray the love you feel for your baby. Charlie will have the most unbreakable bond with Matt as he grows up.

10. You’ll love & respect your own mum more than you thought was possible.

I’m very fortunate that my mum is my best friend, my advisor, my comforter, my role model & the most incredible Nanny to Charlie. Since having Charlie, she has guided and supported me every step of the way and shaped me to be the mother I am today. If I can give Charlie what she has given me then I know I would have done something 100% right. I truly understand how much she loves me & my brother, I completely understand all hopes & fears she has for us. She once told me, “I never thought it was possible to love again like I loved you & Sean. That was until, you had Charlie and it’s all come flooding back”. She is my angel, don’t know what I’d do without her!

Hx

Hands up if you love a bargain!

I love finding little bargains we’ve had loads of baby things and they have all been great! Specially when they grow out of things so quickly, why spend so much money on brand new it makes no sense to me!

That’s when me & Matt decided that instead of spending an absolute fortune on toys which Charlie will grow out of quicker than the speed of light, that we’d buy second hand. Also, it’s his first birthday & Christmas 24 days apart. So, me loving a bargain went on the hut to see what I could find. Obviously we would only buy things in great condition- and boy did I hit the jackpot!

I’d seen someone on Facebook marketplace had been listing lots of different toys and offering bundles. They were perfect! From V-Tec toys to high chair toys there was everything we were looking for. I contacted them and sent a list of what I liked and asked what deal they could do. 15 toys for £48 delivered. Absolute STEAL!

I spoke to Matt and asked him what he thought and he was on board so I went ahead and sealed the deal. I had them delivered today and they are all in fantastic condition and they all work perfectly I’m SO pleased! We have decided to split them in half for his birthday & Christmas. But that is our toy bulk done apart from a ball pit which we still need to buy.

I find a lot of things on Facebook Market & eBay, my mum has had a few baby things from Facebook which she keeps at her house too. People are always selling baby stuff so whatever age have a look and see what you can find I bet you’d be surprised. This isn’t about us being “cheap” we’ve already spent a fortune before he was even here, we quickly realised that it was bloody expensive!

Happy bargain hunting!

Hx

NUK First Choice Leaner Bottle – Product Review

I’ll be honest, I haven’t had much luck with bottles. The last bottle I got for Charlie just leaks all the time and now we can’t find the lid which was temperamental anyway, so that gave me an excuse to buy him a new bottle!

I searched high and low on Amazon, I read loads of reviews on different bottles and finally settled on the NUK First Choice Leaner Bottle. The bottle was £7.99 which I didn’t think was too bad, they have Disney designs and I went for Winnie the Pooh!

The bottle arrived today and I’m pleased to say I was pleasantly surprised. Packaged well and lovely and bright. Not to big, although I felt it is a bit on the smaller side. But that would be my only criticism, although I’m sure you could opt for a bigger size I’ll have to check that one!

The bottle holds 5oz or 150ml if you prefer. The lid is very good clips on solid with no leakage. I wanted this cup purely for water, I’m sure you’d be able to use it for formula too. The bottle comes with instructions although I’m not sure why you’d need them it’s pretty self explanatory, plus I couldn’t even see the instructions in English printed anyway!

The bottle also comes with a separate stopper, I’d assume you could use this if you didn’t have the lid. Tried & tested by Charlie you’ll see by the photos he found it easy to hold and didn’t seem to have any problems with drinking from it at all. Overall I’m pleased with my purchase and definitely would recommend.

5/5⭐️ from me!

Hx

The Play Loft Cardiff

Yesterday me & Charlie set a play date up with my lovely friend Danielle & her little munchkin Edison. We try and meet up once every two weeks, hopefully once a week going forward!

I always can’t wait to see them both, there are just 3 days between Charlie & Edison and they are just the cutest together. It also gives me & Danielle a chance to catch up, talk all things baby and not worry about boring one another. Also share our hopes and fears of our motherhood journeys!

We decided to meet at the Play Loft in north Cardiff (Whitchurch). I’d never been there before and Danielle is pretty much new to anywhere around Cardiff as she’s living in Newport. I was hoping we would both get there in one piece as the last meet up ended in disaster and me retreating to my mums after driving round for an hour & half! But that’s for another blog.

We arrived near enough the same time which was spot on, found parking and got the boys ready. We spotted the sign on the side of the building and after a quick circle found where we were going just down the side. We parked the prams inside at the designated pram corner. I could smell Charlie in the car so knew he needed a quick change before we headed up (typical!).

Lucky for us the playloft has 2 floors for different age ranges the top floor for the older children. Our was the under 3’s on the first floor called the “ Toddlers Garden” also same as the cafe! Winner winner. Entry was £2 for under 3’s, £4 overs & free for baby in arms. The cafe was really cheap, £1.50 for a hot drink & sandwich’s & paninis £3.59-£3.95 which I thought was great.

The play area itself was lovely, and we had the whole place to ourselves which was perfect! We put the boys down to play whilst we chatted away. There were big Wendy houses for when they get a bit bigger, but lots of puzzles and colourful toys for them both to play with on the floor. They had high chairs available for us to give them their lunch, and Danielle had a sandwich. We stayed for around 2 hours and were near enough on our own most of the time before a few came in as we were leaving.

We both said that we would definitely come back, it’s perfect for a little chill out area. We normally go to the Vanilla pod in Newport which I absolutely love but there is nothing for the boys to do. So for me the playloft was a perfect option. I’m looking forward to finding new places to visit.

Thankyou for a lush day as usual Dan🥰 can’t wait to see you both again! 💕

Maternity Leave – How long is too long?

I knew from the moment I found out that I was pregnant that I would be taking 12 months off work. There was no disputing it, I wanted to take it and I would. I’m currently 7 months in and the thought of having to go back to work makes me want to cry! I can’t imagine being away from Charlie.

Most people I know aren’t able to take a year off work, and I completely understand why. Had I not been in a fortunate financial situation then I would probably be going back to work in September. Statutory Maternity Pay commonly known as (SMP) is what I’ve been surviving off from around 6 weeks into my maternity leave. But I can tell you, had I not had extra cash I wouldn’t still be on leave.

We are very lucky that our mortgage and bills and very low compared to most people. Even with manageable outgoings the £147 a week doesn’t cover my outgoings, so every month I’ve had to use money from my savings account. From September onwards I won’t receive any SMP at all as it’s classed as unpaid additional leave. But, I’m ok with that because I’m just not ready to go back to work just yet.

Would I take 12 months off again if we have another baby? Absolutely. Why? Because I can honestly say I have had the most amazing time with Charlie, and I’d rather struggle a bit than not have these moments and watch him grow. What I do know, is that I will 100% plan more carefully, I’ll make sure I put more money aside into my savings account.

I decided not to do shared parental leave with Matt as Charlie was our first baby, but I would definitely consider it on our second. Shared parental leave means I could give say a month of my maternity leave to Matt if I wanted to. I actually think Matt would love it because he always says how much he would like to be at home with Charlie more often.

So, I don’t think a year is too long, and I don’t think 6 months is short. I think it depends on you, your lifestyle, your financial situation. Whatever works for you then do it! Don’t listen to what you should or shouldn’t do. Weigh up all of the options and decide what fits best for you and your family.

I can honestly say this has been the best time of my life!

H x